Becoming Divine Mates

As we move into the month of February, one can’t help but reflect on this month of Love. Although some may enjoy that one special day on the 14th, I prefer to make it a month long celebration lighting a red tea light every day. After all, having a special someone to share my hopes, my dreams, my fears, my children, and my life with deserves the attention of an entire month. Wherever you put your focus, the universe responds. So I celebrate my partner, even when we are apart. This is just one of our secrets on becoming Divine Mates.

Those of you, who have shared in my classes, know that I have an amazing partnership with my husband. For me, I knew when I found him 24 years ago that he was the one; it was love at first sight on both sides. What you may not know is that we worked to have what we share now. Life was not always so glorious. We had major fights, people trying to break us up, and even divorce discussions on more than one occasion. What was always in my heart underneath everything was that this is the man I wanted to be with more than anyone. He was, and still is, the air that I breathe.

So, what is our secret? The secret is a willingness to work on ourselves – both of us. Creating the relationship you desire doesn’t just happen as in a fairy tale. The beginning of any relationship (friendships included) is the ‘honeymoon’ phase, when everything is just peachy. Then over time, the true nature underneath is revealed. We discover that the other person has imperfections…but we must remember that so do we. The choice is: do you yell, blame and walk away; or do you look inside to see how you can grow into better people. I’ve been with my husband now since the day we met in March of 1985. We did the blame thing. We did the judgment thing. We’ve done struggles you might not even imagine. Now we live our bliss.

We discovered as Divine Mates, that you never blame the other. Anytime there is a challenge, we look inside ourselves to see what each of us has to offer to heal the situation. We use each challenge as an opportunity to grow closer. We didn’t start there, but we grew to make this our natural response to every situation. Now, it is amazing.

Two years ago we began to say, ‘Can it really, really be this good?” And can it be this good all the time? Now, years later I can tell you that tension does not exist in our home. Conflict of opinions happens perhaps, but instead of perpetuating the conflict, in every situation – whether it is family or business - we look to who has the greater inner guidance and then yield to the stronger inner voice. We function as one being, and have for so long that I almost cannot remember the ‘old’ days. We are living the dream I dared to dream, but did not know was possible.

If you want to be Divine Mates and live your life of bliss then I will tell you the secret. The key is, you both have to be willing to work at it. If only one person works their stuff, then it is a very lopsided relationship, and perhaps not built for the long-term. Also, erase from your relationship ‘who is to blame’ and replace it with ‘how do we grow’. Then you become a team, and each day, each challenge, brings you closer to living your Divine Mates dream.