Power of Intention to Forgive

If you have the desire forgive, but don’t know how – Intention is your first step. Have you had enough of carrying around a grudge? Did you know that holding a grudge can make you both depressed and physically sick? Anger and resentment are destructive energetic patterns – and even if you have buried the emotions so deep you no longer feel them – the destructive patterns are still at work. Those patterns also drain your energy. If you are truly ready to forgive but simply don’t know how, just put forth your intention to forgive. Intention is your thought and desire being placed for a certain outcome.

Thoughts create feelings; feelings create action; action creates an outcome. So even if you cannot conceive how you could possibly forgive someone, you can consciously say to yourself “I have the desire to let this negative energy go”. Or ask God or your guides to “Show me how to forgive.” Another effective method is to write your intention down on paper. I’ll give you an example below, but use the words that resonate best for you.

My intention is to forgive this person for the acts that they did against me. I choose this for myself to be free of the negative pull and drain that it has on me. I choose to forgive and let go of this experience for myself to be healthy and full of love and energy. Even though I don’t know how to do this right now, I ask my spirit to guide me and help me to let this go.

You can repeat your intention every am and pm or as often as you need to until you start to feel better. The next step after your intention is to surrender the situation to your spirit, or God, or whatever higher power resonates with you. Ask if you have learned all that the situation has to teach you – and if not, that those lessons come clearly and gracefully. You can then step back and allow the flow of life to take over.

Anytime you feel the negative “charge” over this person or situation, realize that you have not yet completed your process. When you have completely forgiven, the charge will disappear. Grudges or lack of forgiveness, steals the love away from within you. It cheats you out of closeness and greater happiness. Repeat this process, whenever you feel the charge come up, until you’ve let it go. Realize that complete forgiveness can take many months or even years. Don’t judge yourself if it takes you a while. The deeper the pain or charge, the longer it will probably take – and the greater the healing benefit for you once you are complete. We are all different, and our situations unique. So, be patient with yourself; do the work; and stay committed to restoring the love within you.