Tip for Conflict: Love beats Logic

Because 2011 is the year to empower your heart, when you lead with the mind you will tend to run into more conflict than when you lead with your heart. During this year, when you find you are experiencing challenges check to see how deeply you are in your heart. If you are in your mind trying to be logical and control the situation, conflict shows up to help you shift into your heart. The conflict helps remind you that you are not coming from as deep a space of love as your soul desires. By moving deeper into our hearts, difficult situations begin to become resolved with grace and ease.

Therefore, the answer in times of conflict is… to step back for a second. Focus on your heart and feel more love inside of you (learn how further down). Then approach the challenge from a place of love - looking for a solution where everybody wins. When a solution is based in love, everybody wins (which can include gaining personal growth).

To resolve any conflict, increase the love within you. Conflict and pain mean, ‘I need more love within me’. Just imagine Christ, Buddha, or Gandhi in a situation of conflict. They would patiently sit in a space of love and kindness through the tirade, and still respond with a voice of gentleness. They would not raise their voice, argue or fight because they have so much love inside of them. They have enough love inside for themselves and the other person. The love is how they are able sit with grace and ease. If we choose a planet of peace we too must focus on increasing the love within ourselves.

How do you increase the love? You go inside of you and feel the love from an experience, chocolate, your dog, a person, your car…it doesn’t matter what triggers the love inside of you. Whether it is from a person, an object, an animal or an experience, love is love and if you want more, you must find a way to access more. Perhaps you can’t feel love for this person at this moment? That’s ok, love is love. Think about something you do love, and put your focus there. Then work to move that sense of love over towards the individual you are having conflict with. The goal is for you to find peace, and the love is what brings you the peace. You can only bring peace for yourself. It is up to the other person to find peace for themselves. But your love can help pave the way.

If we want to experience a planet of peace, we must use the positive to dissolve the negative. Many people have focused on the negative, even unconsciously, as that is the way of most of our world. The problem is that in so doing, they give their power to the negative. They allowed the negative to fill their life and make them miserable. If you want a happy life, you must choose to turn it around. No one can do that for you. If you want to Create a Life You Love, 2011 is a powerful year to do this.