How My Dad's Death Made Me Better
Jan 21, 2016
Picture this: It's a Monday morning and you've just arrived at work or class. You and a friend strike up a conversation, she asks how your weekend went. One of the first things you tell her is how fast it went by, how you can't believe it's already Monday. Now it's Wednesday, and you're thrilled by the fact it's hump day because you're halfway through the week! Then Friday sneaks up and your happiness level is just through the roof, 'cause duh, it's almost the weekend.
If this isn't you and you're always enjoying each moment, be proud. This was me all throughout high school and college, probably even middle school. It pains me to think at least half of my life has been spent in the future instead of the present, especially because the future isn't guaranteed. Most of the planning I did in my head was futile; the expectations I created left me mostly disappointed. Don't get me wrong, I've lived a wonderful life so far...one I'm incredibly grateful for. But being in the boating accident that killed my dad and cousin made me seriously look at life and ask if what I'm doing is enough. I've seen first hand how fast life can be taken, how precious our time here truly is, and I want to make the most of it. If not for me, at least for the people whose time here has been cut short. And for me that starts by truly living in the present.
So, welcome to My Journey to Mindfulness. What does it mean to be mindful?
- Slowing my eating, really focusing on the flavors and textures of the food.
- Snuggling with my cat; focusing on his purring and the comfort he brings me.
- Tuning into the patterns of my breathing.
- When showering or washing my hands, focusing on how the water feels against my skin.
- While brushing my teeth, focusing on how it feels against my teeth and gums.
Disclaimer: This article is not intended to provide medical advice, diagnosis or treat. This information is based on research and knowledge by the author, and the ideas are not intended as substitute for medical advice. As with any products it is suggested that you check with your medical practitioner prior to use. The author disclaims any liability arising directly or indirectly from the use of any products mentioned herein.
7 comments - Share Your Thoughts
Kaylie Schmidt |
I love this, Alla! I have the same problem- I really enjoy stimulation such as music over silence and just staying busy during the day. I am bad about keeping my phone away from me while eating…definitely going to start doing that:) love you Alla! Miss you so so much!!!
Sarah Elizabeth Malinak |
Morning, Kaylie ~ I am such a master of disappearing into my imagination that I find it practically fascinating to slow down and tune into my senses. The feeling of the keys on this lap top under my fingers…listening to the news man talking about this monster snow storm without analyzing anything he’s saying or letting his words pop me into fear…focusing on the essential oils being delivered by diffuser – how they smell, how the little cloud of diffused oil dances in the air. But when I really still myself and close my eyes, I seem to be able to get in touch with the space inside – with the soul, spirit, energy of life that exists alongside my internal organs. And then this natural, gentle smile fills my face. There’s nothing to think about or plan for right there in that space – right there in that moment.
Thank you for your thoughtful, honest blog and this opportunity to reflect!
With love, Sarah
Kaylie Schmidt |
Thank you for sharing this with me, Sarah! I can feel how calm your energy becomes just by reading your words- I am working towards that level of oneness with myself. It’s a difficult skill to master! I am constantly disappearing into my imagination as well! Love to you <3 <3 xoxo
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